I’m sitting here talking to a friend about how people never talk during instant messages, or texts ect ect. Sure you say hi, your friend responds hi, sup, nmu, nothing really. Then there’s a pause for a while, then someone says something like I’m watching the baseball game or maybe even a question like did you hear about the Red Sox last night? But all and all its not that much of an exciting conversation. For my friend and I its completely different. Ours goes like hey, hey, sup, hoping it doesnt rain again, O I know its been raining like crazy last night I woke up because of the thunderstorm, ya me to its not that I hate rain but weve had so much of it ect ect you get the point. Idk if its just me but I want an instant message convo to be like a real life conversation. I always bug people about that. Here are 10 ways that I’ve found that makes an aim convo or a texting convo more lively.

1. When someone asks you how your doing NEVER EVER EVER say nm(nothing much). Your doing a million things every second! All you gotta do is pick one thing to say. All you have to say is “listening to a song called Good Girls Go Bad.

2. Add Detail. Saying “Listening to Good Girls Go Bad” is good but instead answer why your listening to it. “Im listening to Good Girls Go Bad because I heard it on the radio a couple days ago. I searched it on google and bought it a couple minutes ago.

3. Ask a question to keep the conversation going. Like After saying I searched it on google and bought it a couple minutes ago say What songs have you heard on the radio you had to buy?

4. Avoid the pause! You know that pause you get after you stop talking about something? When that happens talk about something you did a couple days ago or something your doing new now. “I went to the Patriots game a couple days ago” or “I’m on Facebook looking at my friends profiles.”

5. Gary Vaynerchuk said at a Web 2.0 speech “Listening to your users is important, but giving a shit about your users WAY BETTER! People listen but they don’t do anything!” Talk to the people you wanna talk to! Don’t say Hi to everyone on your buddy list. If someone says hi to you sure say hi back but don’t talk to everyone.